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Live in Harmony with One Another

There are two things every team must have to make it until the end; endurance and encouragement. 

We are 3-0. That means every season goal that we have set before us is still in tact. You control your own destiny. We are not depending on “this one to beat that one.” You take care of business and you can win a region championship. That begins tonight. You take care of business, we make the playoff. You take care of business and we advance, and advance, and advance and it gets really exciting.

But no one will be crowned region champion at 3-0. No one has ever made the playoffs at 3-0. No one has ever made it to the dome and played for a state championship at 3-0. No one has ever been crowned state champion at 3-0. 

To achieve your goals you have to figure out how to do what you’ve been doing all the way to the end – and that’s a long, long way from here. This is September. Game 4. Game 10 is a long way away. November and December are a long time from now. 

You’re going to get tired. You will get weary. You will want to let up. It is very difficult to keep this level of intensity for a long season.

Commitment is like that. You are excited in the beginning. When you envision what could be you are all in. And then comes the grind. It is true of football. It will also be true in marriage, in parenting, in relationships, in recovery, in business . . . Most of the things that really matter are things that it can be said that it is not how you start, but how you finish. 

When you feel like letting down you will need endurance. You will need something to keep you going intensely to the end. That something is endurance.

No one ever had a perfect season because it was a perfect season.

And somewhere along the way something will go wrong. No one ever had a perfect season because everything was perfect. At some point we will face adversity and you will become discouraged. You will begin to lose heart. There will be something in you that wants to give up. It will threaten to drain your joy. It will test your resolve.

It may be in the middle of the game tonight. It may be the middle of the week, next week. It may be a month from now, but it will take something out of you. That is what it means to be discouraged. Courage is removed from you. You don’t want to go on.

In that moment you need to be encouraged. To encourage means to put courage in someone. It will remind you of your why. It will help strengthen your resolve. That’s what encouragement does. Encouragement replenishes lost courage.

Where does that endurance and encouragement come from? The Bible says in Romans 15:5 that God is the God of these very things. 

May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you . . .

Romans 15:5a

There is no question as to who God is. The only question is who we are.

There is no question what God does. The only question is what we will do.

There is no question what God gives. The Bible says in Romans 15:5 that He will “grant you.” The question is as to whether or not you will believe it, receive it, and apply it.

What would it look like for us as a team to believe, receive, and apply the endurance and encouragement of God. The passage goes on to explain.

“May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another in accord with Christ Jesus, that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Romans 15:5-6

Interwoven in the explanation is an illustration. If you know anything about music you may be familiar with the word harmony. “You live in such harmony with one another.” Harmony is another line of sound added to the melody. The melody is the main song. The melody is the main notes.

Harmony is other voices added. Harmony sings the same song, but different notes. The harmony is other voices and sounds that add the highs and the lows.

The passage also uses the word accord. “In accord with Christ Jesus.” Accord speaks to the volume of the harmony. Accord speaks of the clear, rich sound that takes place when things come together. Accord is that part of a song that explodes and captures you.

This is not a perfect illustration of the concept, but it helps make the point. In the following commercial, everything in a popular song is stripped away, down to one voice singing the melody. And then, in the end, the the rest of the sound, the harmonies are added and the song explodes in accord.

That together you may with ONE VOICE glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Romans 15:6b

I’m not sure if you’ve ever been to a concert that featured a symphony orchestra. Even if you don’t like classical music, you must go at least once. It is the greatest sound you can possibly experience. If you can hear, an orchestra helps you appreciate why God gave you ears. To hear master instrumentalists performing an amazing piece of music gives the ear all it was designed for by the Creator.

But the beginning is confusing. It is irritating. It is awful.

For about 10-15 minutes everyone is doing their own thing. They are tuning up and practicing. It sounds like total chaos. Here is a sample.

But then the conductor takes the stand. He raises his baton and every instrument is brought silent. There is this pause. He looks over the 30, 40, 50 players to make sure that they are all ready. They tune in to him. And then he moves the baton and wow – it all comes together.

The result is a rich, deep, full sound. The result is an iconic piece of music. The result of it all coming together is masterful.

I hope we have a perfect season as far as records go, but I promise you, this will not be a perfect season. No one ever had a perfect season because it was a perfect season. 

You will tire of trying to carry the intensity long-term. You will need endurance in that moment. There will be adversity. It will discourage you. It will take something out of you. You will need to be encouraged. You are going to have to seek out someone who can put things back in.

But when those times come, I can tell you what won’t work. Everyone doing their own thing, won’t work. Allowing factions to develop on the team, won’t work. If competing personalities dominate the team, it won’t work. Allowing pettiness or laziness or selfishness to creep in, won’t work. Pointing fingers won’t work. Quitting won’t work. Losing focus won’t work. 

If everyone starts doing their own thing, this team will descend into chaos and we will not only lose games, but we will lose the opportunity to achieve our goals. 

Live in harmony with one another. Don’t make it about yourself. Be humble. Be encouraging. See the big picture, not the moment. Win the season, not the argument. Live in harmony with one another.

Look to your leaders. You’ve got great coaches. If you get frustrated, talk to them. Do you need encouragement? Look to them. If you need some motivation to keep going, listen to them. Learn from them. One of the things I have experienced in leadership is sometimes in difficulty and adversity people forget the vision. They forget all of the good things that the leaders have done for them and focus only on the bad moment, not the good of the vision. Live in harmony with one another.

Ultimately, as the passage says, we must look to the God of encouragement and endurance and to Christ His Son who bore the reproach of disharmony and disunity for us (Romans 15:3). There is no amount of human ugliness or suffering you will ever go through that He has not already gone through FOR YOU. Look to Him and live in harmony with one another. 

A group of people who look to Him for example, for encouragement for endurance can live in harmony with one another. He can take personalities, adversities, difficulties – He can take those moments when you are so tempted to do your own thing and it looks like it is getting ugly – He can bring it all together in harmony.

For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through enduracne and through the encouragment of the Scriptures we might have hope.

Romans 15:4

His Word is His baton. When we look to the Word all of the chaos of disharmony is silenced. Humans are humbled. Our eyes tune in to Him. We wait for the command.

When a group of young men like yourselves humble themselves for the cause of Christ and look to Him – He brings about an epic testimony, an iconic story – He will create a background to this season you will never forget for the rest of your lives.

For the sake of Christ, live in harmony with one another. 


This post is the manuscript of a chapel talk given before game 4 of the 2019 Christian Heritage Lions Football season.

Week 3 Talk – Love One Another

Pulse – Life in Rhythm. My latest book Pulse was inspired by team talks given during the 2016 CHS Lions season.

Love One Another

I am an only child, but I have brothers.

Some brothers are born by blood, but others are born of a different bond. The Bible says that this type of bonded brother is a special relationship. Proverbs 18:24 says that you can have a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

How does that happen? It happens when we “love one another.”

Love is one of the most misunderstood concepts in our culture. Our culture understands love to be emotion and sexual expression. In the Bible love is not sexual expression, it is covenant commitment. Scripturally, love is not an emotion you feel. It is a command you obey.

In 1 John 3:11-18 the Bible tells us to “love one another. The passage then gives us a negative example and a positive exhortation. The negative example is the tragic story of two brothers, Cain and Abel. The positive exhortation articulates the familial bond that love creates. And in these 8 verses, the Bible uses the word “brother” in reference to “love one another”, 7 times. If we love one another we can become more than friends. We can be like family. If we love one another a group of players can become more than a team. They can become a band of brothers.

If we love one another we can be more than friends. We can be family.

But why? Why be brothers? Why do what it takes to love one another? I want to share three reasons from 1 John 3:11-18.

Basic Need (1 John 3:11)

For this is the message that you have heard from the beginning, that we should love one another.”

1 John 3:11

“That you have heard from the beginning.” Love is something the Bible stresses as early as Genesis. The phrase appears 12 times in the New Testament. Love one another is one of the most basic themes in Scripture. It is one of the most shared messages of the church. You have been told to love one another since kindergarten.

But the reason “love one another” is so often repeated is not because it is an elementary theme, but because it is a basic need. In the same way that your body needs food, air, and water, love is vital to every human relationship.

We are in week 4 of the season, game 3. Counting this week’s game we are assured of 8 more regular-season games. We do not want to regress over those 8 weeks. We are committed to progress. We have determined to get better and better together.

But what will make the biggest difference? The weight room is critical. Guys will continue to work at getting bigger, stronger, faster. But in 8-9 weeks, you will not make the same massive gains that you made in the offseason. it isn’t realistic to expect that we will be exponentially stronger and faster by November than we are right now.

In the same way that your body needs food, air, and water, love is vital to every human relationship.

We will continue to practice. The coaches will make adjustments. You as players will feel more and more confident in the schemes. We will get better at playing “our game” but it is unrealistic to think that we will become exponentially better than we are right now at running our offense or defense. There is no way you will advance in the execution of our gameplan in the next 8 weeks than you did over the spring and summer.

But there is something that can make an exponential difference. What is it? Love. A greater commitment to one another will make an exponential difference in the advancement of our team. The plays are important. Strength and speed are critical. But the relationships you have with one another are vital. “Love one another” means that you have not just committed to play together. “Love one another” means that you are committed to each other.

Love means that no one is left on the outside. It means everyone becomes an insider. Love means acceptance, a sense of belonging, loyalty. Where there is love, there is accountability, forgiveness, and justice. Love means that you will defend one another, fight for one another, and make sure you are together. Love means there are no selfies. There are no stragglers. There are no standouts. There are no holdouts.

Learning to love one another will serve you for your 4 years on this team, but it will serve you for the next 40 as well.

You can’t be a team without love. You won’t get married without love. You can’t stay married without love. You can’t raise children without love. You can’t work for someone or with someone without love.

Love is a basic need in every human relationship.

Bad Alternative (1 John 3:12)

1 John 3 recalls a tragic story of two brothers where love was lacking. Cain murdered his brother Abel and John uses this tragedy to offer us a warning.

We should not be like Cain, who was of the evil one and murdered his brother. And why did he murder him? Because his own deeds were evil and his brother’s righteous.

1 John 3:12

When people lack love, things go bad.

I have been a part of some bad teams. I’ve seen enough of them. I am not interested in being on another one. Talent is not what makes the difference on a team; love does. You can have plenty of talented people on a team, but if there is no commitment to one another, the team goes toxic.

Antonio Brown asks to be released by the Oakland Raiders.

The most talked about man in sports last week was NFL wide receiver, Antonio Brown. At one time Antonio Brown was the highest paid receiver in the NFL. Since signing that deal he has asked to be released from two teams. The most recent was the Oakland Raiders for whom Antonio never played a meaningful down of football. And then after joining the New England Patriots, Antonio Brown faces sexual assault charges in his first week on the job. Antonio Brown has loads of talent, but Antonio Brown is toxic.

Antonio Brown has plenty of money. He’s the most talked about man in the NFL, but he is probably also the loneliest man in the world. Why? Antonio Brown lacks love.

When you lack love the Bible says that people devour one another, grumble against one another, and lie to one another. When people lack love they tell lies and speak evil of one another. Before joining the Patriots, Antonio Brown left a toxic trail of criticism, deceit, inexplicable behavior, and constant complaining.

And then comes the ironic voice of reason, Randy Moss. Randy Moss is a former NFL great who also had quite a history before joining the Patriots at the end of his career. When asked about Antonio Brown, Moss said,

Whenever Antonio Brown shows up on my phone it has nothing to do with football. The next time I see Antonio Brown on my phone, it’s got to be touchdowns. Football from here on out.

Randy Moss, Washinton Post

People who lack love become 1 story people. Anytime you’re around them it’s “the same old thing.”

For people like Cain and Antonio Brown life is never fair. There are problems wherever they go. The situation is never “right enough” for them. Eventually, they end up wanderers headed nowhere.

Unfortunately, there are plenty of people who have loads of talent, but lack love. Those people end up toxic to a team. They don’t help anyone. They will not help anyone get better. They can’t relate to anyone. Toxic people are an encouragement to no one. With them, its the “same old thing.”

We need to love one another like brothers. Otherwise, there is a bad alternative.

Special Bond (1 John 13, 16-18)

After telling the story of Cain and Abel John says, “Don’t be surprised brothers, that the world hates you.” In this life, no one is immune from hate and hardship. When we go through those experiences, we need brothers. And when people pull together to love one another through hate and hardship, it creates a special bond.

By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers. But if anyone has the world’s goods and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God’s love abide in him? Little chilren, let us not love in word or talk, but in deed and truth.

1 John 3:16-18

Anyone can love. We all need to love. But to experience and express love in the fullest sense, we need to experience the love of Jesus Christ. There is no greater example of someone loving us through hardship and hatred than that of the Son of God laying down His life as a sacrifice for our sins. If you truly want to love one another, first realize that you are loved by God. Turn to Christ in repentance and faith and experience brotherly love like never before!

And if we experience that love, we then can lay down our lives for our friends. We can walk into their desperate needs and be sacrificial for them.

At the outset, I said that I’m an only child, but I have brothers. There are countless men in my life that I know I could call on in times of hardship. There are men in my life that I know will rally around me in difficulty. They love me and I love them. We are brothers.

Last week was the anniversary of 9/11. I spent some time that day watching videos and reliving the story. There was a video shared on social media that retold a story of that day I had never heard. It was the story of the harbor pilots who brought their watercraft to the island to rescue people.

For me, one of the most powerful images in the video is at about the 6-minute mark when it shows the white water trails of dozens of boats coming on the horizon in response to the all call. If you lived through that day you remember that it was a day of terror and confusion. No one knew exactly what was happening or what was going to happen next. And for those boat captains to come charging into a cloud of smoldering death to rescue people – that’s the essence of brotherly love.

When you have brothers. People will come to your rescue.

If we are to be a team that loves one another we will not see people sitting alone. We will not see people standing alone. We will have no standouts and no holdouts. A team of people who becomes brothers for a season will be brothers for the rest of their lives. When you go through hatred and hardship, and you will, there will always be people on the horizon coming for you.

Brothers, love one another.


This post is the manuscript of a chapel talk given before game 3 of the 2019 Christian Heritage Lions Football season.

Pulse by Brian Branam

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